My version of “mein 2019 mein 1999 dhoondh rahi houn!”

You might have come across that video where this bandi BEAUTIFULLY explained that even in this “modernised” world we crave for simplicity.

Do watch this video if you haven’t:

and here’s my version of “mein 2019 mein 1999 dhoondh rahi houn!” because mein bhi 2019 mein 1999 e dhoondh rahi houn!!

Touchscreen k zamanay mein Motorolla flip phone dhoondh rahi houn

Mein fancy sushi k zamanay mein aik saada soup lover dhoondh rahi houn

Mein bhi 1999 mein 2019 dhoondh rahi houn

Koi aisa jisko kaam wali nahi balkay jeewan saathi chaiyay ho

Mein croissants k zamanay mein chai mein rusk dabbo k khanay wala dhoondh rahi houn

Mein bhi 1999 mein 2019 dhoondh rahi houn

Koi aisa jisko “no strings attached” k zamanay mein rishtoun ko nibhana ata ho, dukh sukh mein saath daina ataa ho

Jisy being possessive aur being protective k darmayan mein differentiate krna ata ho

Koi jis ko iss matlabi muasharay mein dusroun ka ehsaas krna ata ho

Detox juice k zamanay mein shakar wali chai ka maza laina ata ho

Mein usay dhoondh rahi houn jisy rooth k bhi meri batoun ph muskurana ata ho

Mein bhi 2019 mein 1999 dhoondh rahi houn

Logoun k bjayay cheezoun ko istemaal krny ka mantra rakhta ho

Late dinner with a cup of tea at his place k bjayay breakfast and a walk in the park prefer krta ho

Koi aisa jisko cheez tootnay ph naii lainay k bjayay purani wali ko jorna ata ho

BTS k zamanay mein Farida Khanum sun.nay wala dhoondh rahi houn

Mein bhi 2019 mein 1999 dhoondh rahi houn!!!

Do you think he loves you?

Have you ever been in a situation where you and your friends are sipping tea, and outta nowhere your friend asks you, “do you think he loves me?”

And you have no idea how to answer that, well let me break it down for you “If you’re not sure and you find yourself asking that question then girl, he doesn’t love you because if he did there would be no such questions! There wouldn’t be any space for doubt bo matter what. You wouldn’t have to ask this from your friends because sweetheart when a guy loves a girl, he makes sure she knows it!”

There won’t be a doubt! There’s gonna be no grey area! It’s a black and white sorta thing. He either loves you or he doesn’t! There’s no middle ground, I’m sorry.

And for guys, get your act together! If you love her put a ring on her otherwise stop wasting her time.

Are we officially the “na teetar na batair”?

I fail to understand what we are becoming, me included. It feels like from deep inside we want the sweet sweet emotions of pure and blissful love but we also want to pretend that we are not interested.

We want to feel the happy feelings and deny ourselves of the sad parts. Well, when will we understand that there is no happy part without the sad portion. There can’t be a rainbow without the rain.

We want to indulge in simple pleasures of life but yet we crave for materialistic things too!

We want to get what we wish for but we don’t want to get hurt, we need to understand k kuch paanay k liyay kuch khona bhi parta hai!

We want life partners but we are also looking for something with no strings attached!

We want someone to be there for us all the time but we are also scared of commitments.

We want someone to accept us exactly the way we are when we ourselves can’t come to terms with what we are from deep inside. You’ll have to accept that raw aura of yours before you expect someone else to accept that.

We want to be someone’s only priority but we also want to keep our options open!

We want to be with someone who doesn’t play games but we won’t stop playing games.

AISE KAISE BAI?

Sakoon…

Log kehtay hein namaz parh k sakoon milta hai. Mjhy lgta hai k sakoon namaz parhnay se nahi milta balkay us ehsaas se milta hai yh jaan kr k koi zaat hai jo sunn rhi hai, jo bus hai, jb bhi pukaro wo sunti hai.

Sakoon us ehsaas mein hai yh jaan kr k koi hai jo hamesha sunta hai, hamesha sunta tha aur hamesha sunay ga.

Sakoon us ehsaas mein hai k jo bhi ho apki baat yhn se agay nhi jayay gi, wo bd mein baat moun par nahi maray ga, kamzor lamhe mein jitna bhi ro lo, jo marzi kh lo wo bd mein yaad nhi krwayay ga.

Sakoon toh us dua mein hai jismein ap kuch na bhi mango toh bus ro k e dil halka hojata hai aur bin mangay, bin kahay e wo sub smjh laita hai aur kunn kh daita hai.

Too busy: a myth or a reality?

I came to this conclusion recently that NO ONE and by no one, I mean NO ONE is too busy.

People will always find time for you if you mean something to them.

Someone can be “too busy” once in a while or maybe even twice but if it happens more than that, trust me darling…take the hint.

Oh and an additional pointer, don’t go around making these “too busy” people the priority in your life when you’re nothing but an option to them. Don’t do this to yourself. You owe this to yourself. I promise you’ll thank yourself later.

But who am I to tell you that. I know you won’t understand until you learn it yourself.

Play safe or take a risk?

So a week ago, I was watching cartoons (and yes I love watching cartoons although I might even be too old to say the word cartoons), but who cares. I was watching cartoons when one of my old school crush commented on one of my pictures.

I mean I hope I don’t have to explain what I felt. Haha.

I don’t know but I felt like the 14 year old girl again, I felt a rush, I could feel myself smiling and reading the comment over and over again.

Right at that time, something hit me(not physically but mentally), what if we are not getting things we have always wanted mainly because we have been so scared of losing at it that we have decided to settle for something average just because taking a risk was too risky for us.

I suddenly realised that I had been playing safe for so long that I had completely forgotten how good the rush of taking a risk felt. I had been so scared of getting hurt that I had somehow made myself believe that the rush wasn’t worth the pain.

It got me to thinking and I couldn’t decide which one is better?

Risking it or playing it safe?

Deciphering men: one step at a time S01E01

Not a very regular writer but I felt like writing my heart out today. I learnt something VERY basic today. SomethyI’ve been reading around for a bery long time but got to understand it just today.

“WOMEN AREN’T SUPPOSED TO CHASE MEN” PERIOD.

Men love doing the chasing thing. Give them something to chase.

If you feel like you have to chase the guy all the time, call him to remind him of your existence, ask them to take care of you, let them know that you expect to be treated the way you treat them THEN LISTEN CAREFULLY AND HOLD ON TO WHAT I’M ABOUT TO TELL YOU:

“STEP BACK AND GIVE HIM SPACE TO REACH OUT TO YOU”

It’s in their anatomy(I don’t know if it’s the right word to be used here) that they want the things they can’t have. They like getting something that’s hard to get, someone who isn’t there all the time, someone who keeps on calling and does everything without even being asked to do so.

If you think a guy will stay with you or love you more if you give him gifts(not saying that giving gifts is a bad thing), always make plans, decide everything for him, go out of your way to do things for him, drop all your plans just because he made a plan! NEWS ALERT: YOU’RE WRONG!

Stay in your aura, don’t give up your passion, give time to yourself, wait for him to call, be supportive if he’s busy with work, be there for him but don’t become a doormat!

Trust me ladies, a true man will always make an effort to be with you if he wants. Just note this down: IF A GUY WANTS YOU, HE’LL DO JUST ABOUT ANYTHING TO BE WITH YOU. I can swear on this theory. If he wants you he’ll manage his time, his friends, his family everything! But if he doesn’t want you he’ll make excuses.

Don’t ever depend on a guy who isn’t ready to walk atleast halfway to be with you. If you feel like it’s always you who’s making all the efforts and begging for time and attention then do yourself a favour, LEAVE. Ditch his ass. Trust me there are like a zillion gentlemen out there. You just have to look. It may take some time but trust me it’s better than waiting for someone who takes you for granted. Some people don’t realize what they had until it’s lost!

Taken for granted!

Doesn’t it sound a little too familiar that the guy was crazy after your friend but soon after they got together they kind of started losing that spark, the charm? They started fighting over stupid things, they had nothing to talk about, one of them started feeling like the other one never has  time or one of them starts feeling that they are being taken for granted.

It isn’t for a specific gender, I have seen guys being taken for granted just as easily girls are taken for granted!

Sometimes I just can’t help but wonder what makes us think that the people we have will stay with us if we keep on ignoring them and keep on taking them for granted?

What happens that we decide to cross that line and start taking the other for granted?

A good memory is a curse!

You’ll totally be able to relate if you have an excellent memory, you never seem to be able to forget things people said. I swear it’s a curse not being able to forget stuff people randomly mention in front of you.

The gut wrenching feeling when you hear something randomly being brought up by someone and you’re dead insecure about it. I mean if someone cares about you won’t they want to filter that stuff and thin at least twice before uttering that thing in front of you?

I fail to understand people.